5 Hidden Patterns You’re a High-Performer… Who’s Actually Holding Himself Back

When it comes to going after what we want, it’s easy to deceive ourselves. For high-performing men, we set our heights high and are captivated by ambition & drive. Yet despite lavish attempts it’s easy to get caught in self-deceit & not actually go anywhere. These are 5 Hidden Patterns You Might Be Holding Yourself Back.


  1. You get a rush from checking tasks off your endless to do lists, but never change what the tasks are. You’re caught in an endless loop of dopamine chasing & busywork with no nuance or fun.

  2. You binge on podcasts, blogs & newsletters, but your own thoughts feel foreign, scattered or shallow. You’re fluent in other people’s ideas but lost when it comes to your own.

  3. You are constantly rewriting your goals, because deep down, you know you won’t move on them. It’s easier for you to romanticize a future than to face what it would take to build it.

  4. You freeze when it’s time to speak up, then resent how effortlessly others do. Their boldness exposes your silence and that stings.

  5. You ache for more but don’t know how to break out of your shell. So you stay where it’s familiar, quietly hungry, hoping something shifts.


If any of these hit you’re not broken or deficient, you’re simply stuck in a loop that can end. Those dreams of yours are in reach and they are waiting for you to stop circling them & rise to the occasion.

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